“I don’t have any friends.  Nobody likes me.  I wonder if anyone loves me.”  These subconscious thoughts stem from a self-centered heart.  In many cases, the reason why we may not be as likeable as we could or should be is because we do not desire or know how to win with people.

Instead of asking “Who loves me?” we should ask, “Who can I love?”  We can make an incredible difference when we focus on others and express a genuine interest in them.  As a natural result, we become more likeable and more effective in our relationships.

There are two key principles that are fundamental to winning with people.  First:  “‘…love your neighbor as yourself’” (Matthew 22:39).  Second:  “Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others” (Philippians 2:3-4).  Putting others before ourselves is the key to people power.

25 Ways to Win with People:  How to Make Others Feel like a Million Bucks

You've read John Maxwell's best-selling Winning with People, and now you're ready for some specific action steps to build on the knowledge you gained.  25 Ways to Win With People has just what you need! This complementary companion to the full-sized book is ideal for a quick refresher course on interpersonal relationships.

A small sampling of the twenty-five specific actions readers can take to build positive, healthy relationships includes:

• Complimenting People in Front of Others

• Creating a Memory and Visiting It Often

• Encouraging the Dreams of Others